Mommy Guilt 101

Happy Sunday! No really, it’s a Happy Sunday in my house today because it’s quiet time right now and that means I get (me, by myself, no kids, just me) to do whatever I please for the next 2 hours. Nice, right? Well, hold up. It took me several years to get to this point. I had to put my dues in with little ones and feedings and potty training and no naps and well, you get the idea. So, I like this season of mothering that I’m in right now. It works for me and heck, it looks good on me. If you’re not there yet, that’s okay…keep reading ­čÖé

I suffer from Mommy Guilt. Do you? This is my own, personal definition: “to enjoy doing something for yourself but at the expense of an overwhelmingly, obligatory, nudging, selfish, can’t stop-thinking-about-my-kids mindset that is so powerful that it consumes the mother with intense amounts of worry, burden, and doubt”. That’s me at times. I like to consider myself a mom-in-recovery-from-mommy-guilt, though. I’m getting better at pushing those thoughts aside and allowing myself the room to breathe, rest, and relax as any human being should be allowed to do.

Off the top of my head, I can think of several things that I put off because I feel guilty for doing so:

  1. Going pee when my kids need something.
  2. Working out when my kids tell me they don’t want to go to childcare at the gym.
  3. Getting a babysitter for 2 HOURS when my little one cries for me to stay home and hold her.
  4. Telling my children to go back upstairs when they come down to sit with me during the designated quiet time in our home. (Obviously, I let them ask/tell me whatever they need to but if it’s something that can wait, I gently remind them that this is quiet time in our home and they can go back to their rooms to play and/or watch a movie).
  5. This a BIG one for me…listening to my daughter cry and tell me she’s hungry AFTER I have offered her two different dinner options and reminding her that she WILL be hungry if she doesn’t eat. It’s when the kitchen is ‘closed’ and we’re in our pjs getting ready for bed that she begins telling me she is starving. Truth: sometimes I give in :/

Can you relate to any of these? Let me remind you that we all need alone time. It’s important. It’s vital. It’s necessary. It’s for our own good. Take the first step of letting that guilt go and do something nice for yourself. Post a picture and show me what you did for yourself. I will enter you to win a tshirt from┬áPeekaboo Apparel, a subsidiary company of┬áPeekaboo Magazine┬áin northwest Arkansas. The winner will be picked at random and will be allowed to pick out any shirt she would like from those that are being offered on the site. Winner will be announced Wednesday, August 3, 2016 at 6pm.

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